As humans we have opinions. As humans we can decide what we do with them. 'Slut shaming' has become a buzzword within society and with the ever increasing users on social media, people are using it more and more that it can be used so loosely online and in public, yet, it can still have an affect on women.
A woman can be labeled a 'slut' for the way she dresses. The items of clothing she pulls from her wardrobe can be based on how she is feeling or who is will be meeting and she can love her outfit and how it makes her feel. But, is there now an added pressure of looking 'too sexy'? Does the fear of being called a slut make women choose otherwise?
The label of 'slut' is degrading and no one should ever be made to feel less worthy by the way they are dressed.
I have a number of dresses and playsuits with a deep V neckline. As I was purchasing one I read a comment from a girl which went; 'Do you have one like this without the slutty v neck? '
I had to reply that the neck line is actually very flattering. A V shape makes the figure looks slimmer, being the V shape and it is also a fashion statement. Just like the mini skirt or maxi dress.
If you think an outfit represents the amount of sexual partners someone might have, you are very much wrong.
A girl\woman can be called a slut for; looking a certain way, being sexually active, being open about her sexuality and sex life or for simply just speaking to someone (but she laughed so she must have been flirting with him!). There is a stigma attached to women who speak openly about their sex life. A man can do this and be called confident or " a lad", y'know the man's man, the ladies man, THE man. Meanwhile, women are ridiculed and degraded as we walk down the street. Whether or not she has a strong sense of self respect or not, comments are very easily be made.
A woman who is in control of their own body and their own actions makes the decision to wear what she wants and it's her choice.
The word 'slut' is one that is easy to throw about. It can be a mentally tormenting experience for someone to be involved in. Women who call other women such things is horrible. We are meant to stand together and support each other. We need to support each other as some men call us "sluts" on nights out as they try and "cop a feel". We need to support each other while we fight our own battles in the world. Fearing a judgement is wrong. It is one of the inequalities we face as women and why should other women support it by calling it out.
A woman can wear what she wants, do what she wants and acts how she wants. As long as there is respect for herself and others, there is no problem. It is her body. Her mind. Her choice. It is my view, that as long as no one is getting hurt, then there is no problem.
There is so much hate and tragedies happening in the world already that we cannot and should not turn on the people at home and around you. We need to share positivity and love only. We need to stand together.
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